While I cannot speak for every wife, I know most women could get into spending most of their time, energy, and focus on juggling motherhood and managing the home during the holidays. This has the potential to leave you as a wife feeling burned out most of the time and it can invariably lead to a low sexual desire in this period.
Let me remind you that the holidays are one of the best periods to incorporate more sexual intimacy into our marriage because it’s a season where we have some work-free time as a couple. However, if you are not conscious and intentional, you can turn the holiday season into another roller coaster of to-dos.
The holiday season is not only a time for activities, festive decorations, and managing the kids but also an opportunity to deepen your intimacy and have more sex with your husband.
Try these 4 Practical ways to Initiate more Sexual Intimacy with your Husband during this holiday season
Set the Mood for Sexual Intimacy:
Setting the mood is about creating an internal and external atmosphere that makes you want to have sexual intimacy with your husband. Think good thoughts about sex, allow your mind some space to relax, and focus on sexual intimacy. When sex was something I looked forward to in my marriage, a certain “mood” was set. As cliché as it sounds to “get in the mood,” it helped set the stage for an incredible experience. You can also set the mood externally by creating a warm and cozy environment. Take time off-screen, decorate your bedroom with rose petals then dim the lights (candlelight is a good option). Search for a good playlist that will evoke feelings of love and intimacy with your husband, including plush pillows, and perhaps a hint of love-themed decor. A cozy space can help both of you relax and feel more intimate.
Flirt and Seduce Him:
If you have been married for a while, it is easy to get very comfortable and over familiar with your husband and this could make your intimate and sexual life become boring. Flirting is a way to add some spice and show your husband that you still desire him. Embrace your inner seductress with some playful flirtation. Express admiration with seductive compliments of the impact he has on you. Lock eyes with an alluring gaze and let your eyes convey messages of passion or initiate intimate moments with a touch of spontaneity. In short, flirting is fun and helps to keep things fresh.
Look Physically Attractive:
Wear something that flatters your figure. Whether you are curvy or athletic, wearing clothes that look good on you is a total turn-on for husbands. Don’t be caught up in just wearing old slacks and pajamas the whole day. Wear outfits that accentuate your body and make you feel confident. Show cleavages or flaunt your legs if they are your best features. Lingeries are a good option, they can help you become comfortable in your own body, help you look sexy, and be a great confidence builder. Surprise your husband with a new lingerie and let him know you are wearing it just for him. Wives, remember men are visual beings so flaunt what you have all the way!
Sexting:
According to a 2019 study from the Sexuality, Sexual Health & Sexual Behavior Lab in the Texas Tech University Department of Psychological Sciences, sexting is a really great way to communicate sexual desires to your partner — aka, all the stuff you really want to try in bed but may be too nervous to talk about face-to-face. This is a way to add some excitement into your relationship. Send him a sexy or inviting text in an unusual way – send him one while you have your family over, send one while he’s in the bathroom, leave a note on his computer if he steps out, send a sexy text while you are visiting friends or even at the restaurant. Wives don’t hold back or shy away from telling your man all you want to do with him. Sexting is especially great when you want to introduce a fantasy and you are nervous about telling your husband face to face.
Prepare to have more fun and an exciting sexual relationship with your spouse during this holiday.
This is just a little tip of what I wrote in my new book, “Have Sex & Pray”. So if you enjoyed this blog, then you should definitely get my new book “Have Sex & Pray”
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About the Author
Ruth Esumeh is the founder of Ruth’s Marriage Counseling Services, a marriage counseling and coaching company that focuses on helping couples enjoy their marriage God’s way.
