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5 Marriage Truths You Must Know to Have a Great Marriage

Marriage Truths You Must Know to Have a Great Marriage

Marriage – a union that brings so much joy and fulfillment, but also comes with its fair share of challenges. Many people have this illusion of a perfect partner/marriage, there’s no such thing. However, I believe most marriages can thrive with the right mindset, actions, and knowledge.

The truth is if everyone knew what exactly to do to have a great marriage, they would have done it by now. In this article, we will explore five marriage truths you must know to have a great marriage.

1. Love will fade and possibly die if it’s not being sustained by actions

One of the most common misconceptions about marriage is that being in love is enough. Just because you started out loving each other does not mean the love will automatically sustain itself. Love is like a garden that needs constant nurturing to flourish. Without regular care and attention, even the strongest love can die.

Think of love as an investment bank account; you must make regular deposits to see growth. These deposits can be kind words, spending quality time with them, emotional support, and physical displays of affection. If you stop making these investments as a couple, your love starts to deplete, and if left for long, it will eventually die.

2. Your spouse cannot meet all your needs. They are not God

Realistically, no human being can meet all your needs, if it were possible, we would not need God. Many marriages struggle under the pressure of these unrealistic expectations. Putting the burden of meeting all your emotional, spiritual, physical, and even mental needs on your spouse will frustrate the two of you and potentially damage your marriage.

Understanding this reality will reduce the unnecessary pressure on your partner, create space for the both of you to uniquely be yourselves, allow you to build a stronger relationship with God, and help you grow and be self-reliant as a person.

3. You will both change and your needs for each other will evolve from time to time

Change is inevitable even in marriage. What was important for you in year one may change in year three. The both of you will evolve over time and so will your needs, desires, and perspectives. This means that you must constantly communicate your needs and adjust to these changes. The longer you both fail to acknowledge these changes, the more it frustrates and damages your marriage.

Couples who have a great marriage acknowledge these changes and create safe spaces to discuss and handle them together. Regularly checking in with your partner and having open discussions with them about these changes can help couples stay connected through various stages of life.

4. You don’t have a great and intimate marriage because you are a Christian

Being a good Christian or a man/woman of faith doesn’t guarantee that you will automatically have a great marriage. While your faith in God can be a strong foundation for building your marriage, it must be accompanied by intentional efforts and practical actions on your part to build a healthy marriage.

To build an intimate marriage as a Christian, you need to prioritize communication, physical and emotional intimacy, emotional intelligence, respect, trust, and most especially, love. Remember that being a good Christian and being a good spouse requires different skills, though they complement each other beautifully when you have both characteristics.

5. Your marriage will not suddenly be great with time. Time doesn’t change marriage

If you are waiting for your marriage problems to resolve themselves without putting in any effort, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You can be in an unhappy marriage for twenty years. Time doesn’t change marriage or create intimacy. Marriage only changes when we invest the right actions and intentional effort that can create a change.

To have a great marriage, you must address conflicts immediately before they happen, build an emotional connection with your spouse, maintain physical intimacy, increase communication between the both of you and strengthen the trust your partner has in you.

Wrapping Up

Everything boils down to one thing – How you prioritize your marriage. This involves making time for each other, choosing to address issues instead of avoiding them and creating and maintaining boundaries to protect your marriage.

Not taking deliberate action to build intimacy in your marriage is taking action to gradually destroy it. It is not okay to only have good intentions. Are your intentions matching your actions?

It’s why I created The 28 Days Lovers Again Challenge; for couples who have good intentions but need help to actively rebuild intimacy. Click this link to join this challenge now. You too can have a happy and thriving marriage.

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Ruth Esumeh is the founder of Ruth’s Marriage, a marriage counseling and relationship coaching company. She is a Certified Marriage Counselor and Therapist helping couples enjoy marriage, God’s way! Follow Ruth on all social media platforms.

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1. Introduction

At Ruth’s Marriage, we are committed to providing a safe and confidential environment for our clients. This confidentiality policy outlines how we handle your personal information and the limits to confidentiality that may apply during the course of marriage counseling sessions.

2. Confidentiality Assurance

2.1 Client-Counselor Privilege: All information shared during marriage counseling sessions is confidential. This means that your counselor will not disclose any information without your explicit written consent, except as required by law or ethical standards (see section 3).

2.3 Protection of Records: Client records, including session notes, assessments, and any other documentation, will be securely stored and only accessible to authorized personnel as outlined in section 4.

3. Limits to Confidentiality

3.1 Domestic Abuse or Physical Abuse: If there is reasonable report of
physical abuse, we are legally obligated to inform the victim to report this to the appropriate authorities.

3.2 Threats of Harm: If you pose a serious threat of harm to yourself or others, we may need to take steps to ensure safety, which may include disclosing relevant information to appropriate parties, such as law enforcement or medical professionals.

3.3 Court Orders: If a court orders the release of your counseling records, we may be required to comply with such an order.

3.4 Supervision and Consultation: Your counselor may consult with other mental health professionals for supervision and training purposes. In such cases, your identity will be kept confidential.

4. Access to Client Information

4.1 Authorized Personnel: Only authorized personnel, including your
counselor, and administrative staff, of Ruth’s Marriage will have access
to your information.

4.2 Security Measures: We take all reasonable measures to protect your
personal information, both in paper and electronic formats, from unauthorized access, disclosure, or alteration.

5. Client Consent

Before any disclosure beyond the limits outlined in this policy is made, we will seek your explicit written consent, explaining the purpose and recipients of the information to be disclosed.

6. Record Retention

Client records will be retained for a period determined by applicable laws and ethical standards. After the retention period expires, records will be securely destroyed.

7. Questions and Concerns

If you have any questions or concerns about our confidentiality policy, please feel free to discuss them with your counselor or write us at ruthsmarriage:gmail.com

8. Policy Updates

We may update this confidentiality policy from time to time to reflect changes in laws, regulations, or our counseling practices. You will be notified of any significant changes.

Cancellation Policy

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CANCELLATIONS AND MISSED APPOINTMENTS

The client is expected to arrive on time for each booked session. A cancelled or postponed appointment slows down our work and might have a negative influence on other clients. Because your appointments include the reserve of time expressly for you, and out of mutual respect for each other and our other clients, postponing or cancelling an appointment requires a minimum of 24 hours’ notice in advance.

WHEN THE NO-SHOW/LATE CANCEL FEE IS WAIVED

This means if your appointment is supposed to be 9am on Wednesday and you wish to cancel, we expect to have received your email by 9am on Tuesday, then we can waive the cancellation fee. If we receive your cancellation later than that, then you will be charged the cancellation fee to have another appointment. Note that if your appointment is on a Monday, the cancellation needs to be provided no later than the prior Friday, by your appointment time, to be considered proper 24-hour notice.

If you can, we would appreciate more than 24-hour notice so that we can make that time available to other clients.

As a result, if you find out before the mandatory 24-hour notice that you will be unable to attend our session, please send an email so that we can fill your slot and place another client in your space who may require it. Counseling appointments are designated exclusively for our clients and are booked in advance. We are unable to cover this time slot by providing it to another client when a session is canceled without adequate notice. The email to send a cancellation notification to is ruthsmarriage@gmail.com

WHEN THE NO-SHOW/LATE CANCEL FEE IS WAIVED

This cancellation policy is only waived in the event of a serious sickness or emergency. Car accidents, family deaths, and severe illness are all examples of emergencies. In this case, if you are not physically able to cancel your appointment, you can get someone to write us an email on your behalf. Our cancellation policy applies even if the missed appointment was unintended. Work-related issues are not emergencies.

Late Cancellation Fees Process: Any session missed due to a cancellation less than 24 hours in advance will be assessed at $50/standard fee. You will be charged even if the cancellation was due to work or if you rescheduled the appointment without adequate notice. We will send you a payment link immediately to pay the cancellation fee before you can have another appointment or continue your sessions.

WAIT TIME GRACE PERIOD

Your wait time is kept to a minimum. Due to the length of time provided for each appointment, it is critical that you arrive on time for your appointments. If you are more than 10 minutes late to your appointment, we will have no choice but to reschedule your appointment and you will be responsible for the $50 fee of a no show. To avoid paying no show fees, we require at least twenty-four (24) hours’ notice for all cancellations (as described above). Both counselor and client have a grace period of 10 minutes.

RECURRING SESSIONS: CANCELLATION FEE PAYMENT ENFORCEMENT

For recurring therapy/counselling sessions, when you miss a session without adequate notice, you will pay the cancellation fee of $50 for that session, before another session. The same standard above applies for each session.

Ruth’s Marriage Counselling Services sends automated email reminders of forthcoming appointments as a courtesy. Whether or not you receive the text or email reminder, it is your sole duty to keep track of and attend any planned appointments/sessions on time. If your phone number or email address changes, please notify us via email.

We appreciate your understanding and our policy is hinged on the fact that a late cancel or no-show hurts at least three people: you, the counsellor, and another client who could have potentially utilized your time slot

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We value you and are committed to your journey, however, we can only accomplish this with your understanding of the obligations set forth in this policy. Time is of the essence in our practice and we encourage good use of time to accommodate more clients who need help. Thank you

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